How to Accept Rejections…And Learn From It

Last week, I participated in the “Adversity Challenge”, where I must do a series of different challenges with the end goal to be REJECTED. The lesson behind the challenge is to push me out of my comfort zone and start developing a habit of “seeking discomfort”. Having immigrated from Hong Kong to Canada at 16, turning from camera shy to active vlogging and posting content on Youtube at 21, I must say this challenge definitely became one of the highlights of my school year.

Challenge 1: Invite someone you’ve never socialized with to a virtual chat

Challenge 2: Reach out to a friend or family member who has shunned you

I messaged him saying “how are you?” and intended to schedule a virtual catch-up meeting with him. It took me a while to press the blue arrow to send the message, but I did it. Weirdly Fland responded to me very soon and said yes to my message. We ended up having a virtual chat where we did not talk about the spare tires but just a lot of dialogue about lives as fourth years.

Challenge 3: Try to get a refund at the wrong store

Challenge 4: Ask someone for a job

At the end of the day, I still felt grateful for this opportunity to be able to speak with him and learn about the creator space the start-up is working within. I believe the end goal of networking calls is not about landing the job, but understanding yourself better, and realizing how little do you know.

If you are reading this, I just wanted to thank you again for taking the time.

Reflection

Overall, I’ll rate myself a solid 9/10 with the rejection Olympic, where I completed all the challenges while taking away lessons about cultivating a growth mindset. However, in reality, I am probably a 6/10 where I do not take initiative as much as I could, especially when it comes to initiating conversations and building new relationships. However, I realized that accountability has helped me to do more of this, by simply sharing what I am planning to do with my housemates and my families, it strengthens my urge to execute them. (Shoutout to @aaronzhou, Shangbing Jiang)

Key Takeaways & Message To Everyone

1. Rejection is inevitable.

However, to break through the invisible ceiling you have set for yourself, you have to embrace rejections, and master the art of confronting failure. Once you are out there getting used to no-responses, rejections, and feel okay about it. Opportunities will begin to come and come in the most unexpected ways.

2. The Ability to Cope with Rejections like a Muscle

It is also important to realize that you have to exercise your muscle regularly. Newton’s First Law depicted that “Objects in motion stay in motion.”, it tells a story that momentum is instrumental to starting a habit and changing a mindset. It is important to get into a rhyme of doing uncomfortable things, and as time goes, you will stop letting your inner voice bother you anymore.

Once you are strong enough, rejections will no longer be able to alter your sense of worthiness and motivation, as a result, you’ll be able to go further than anyone else.

Your life begins at the end of your comfort zone